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The whole idea of "playing" is as old as dirt, but gained popularity back in the late 60's "free love" generation. Now it carries the tag "playa" and is totally non-gender. It offers all the perks of a relationship without actually being in one...which are gained in as little as a few hours or up to a week or so. Obviously...it's an awesome rush, kinda like a fantasy come true. And you seldom find playa's connecting with other playa's. Sort of like running a con game, it requires one partner to be pursuing something real and long term, but giving in for a short "fix" along the way.
The down side of playa's (of course there IS one) is that you trade off close, personal, intimate long term relationships and become callous, cold hearted, and pretty much dead inside. It's kind of like "how many sex partners is normal for a lifetime?" The number isn't the key answer, but the more you have the less you have to offer anyone in particular. You know, like spreading yourself a little thin...the more spreading you do.
My point is...while it's all popular to choose this lifestyle these days, even if it's sold to you as a short term deal, in songs, movies, and dating literature...it does not add up to finding your true love, the "one," or your significant other in the end. It makes no difference to me what you choose. I hang around playa's all the time (men and women) going out and about. They are definately a fun, party time bunch! But it rubs me the wrong way when I hear people say "do what you want and then settle down later." There IS no settle down later. There is "settle" for another used up playa...later. There is "I wish I wasn't so fucked up"...later. There is "I am now running away from my past" ...later and forever lying your asses off for the rest of your life and hoping your past doesn't find you...later. But there sooo isn't "I found the man/woman of my dreams" after years of playin...later.
So if you're pursuing a dream...don't pick the playa option. The same as playa's being as old as dirt...so is the "fact" that there are two types of men/women. The one's you party/play with, and the one's you marry. No one wants a used up man or woman to spend the rest of their life with...well, unless they are settling, eh?