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I am a 27-year-old Kansas City transplant from Michigan. I am in no way a dating expert. In fact, I often have a love-hate relationship with dating. But when it comes to talking about dating, it's all love.

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- July (19)
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  - 29th: Are you a woman under 26? - 11:30 am
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  - 25th: Mood music - 10:10 am
  - 25th: Candles. Cheesedick or romantic? - 9:35 am
  - 24th: What boys are teaching me - 3:00 pm
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  - 18th: "We-jaculation" - 9:55 pm
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  - 18th: That ain't sexy - 11:20 am
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  - 18th: Getting the digits - 12:15 am
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  - 16th: Dating technology - 6:20 pm
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  - 13th: You've thought about it ... - 2:10 am
  - 12th: Quit hating on online dating - 5:40 pm
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  - 11th: SINGLES OUT -- a story from 2005 - 2:10 am
  - 3rd: 'Good sex lasts 3 to 13 minutes' - 9:25 am
  - 1st: This week's tip: Leave the panties on - 11:40 am
- March (1)
  - 31st: Last chance for FREE stuff! - 5:25 pm

Mood music

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What's the best music to start a little romance? Depends on who you ask. But this is Kansas City. I say stay true to our roots and put on some jazz.

Soft, slow, sexy songs to dance to. In your own apartment even. Sounds dorky, but it's romantic.

Tonight it's Friday. The night my friend DJ Miles plays soul, jazz and R&B records at Spitfire Grill on 39th Street. He's calls it "The Sauce," and there's mood lighting, no cover, and of course, sexy songs. I suggest if you ever need somewhere chill to go after a Friday night date, stop by.

And if you're not dating and you just want to hear some good music and have a smooth glass of wine, go. I've never been there with a date before -- only friends -- and it's still awesome. Just don't let the love songs bring you down.

(10) Comments

Posted on: Apr 25 2008 - 10:10:00 AM

Tags: DATING JAZZ MUSIC

10 Comments - leave comment

miles davis, billie holiday, john coltrane, thelonious monk. those are my favorite mood music artists.

Posted 14 weeks ago by kungfujunkie

kungfu- thats what miles spins. it is phenomenal. seriously.

Posted 13 weeks ago by thephoenix

Blues all the way. Muddy Waters, John Lee Hooker, Koko Taylor, and Son House. I can't think of a better distillation of raw emotion than the blues.

Posted 13 weeks ago by Dustin Williams

The National, Nick Drake, Stars, Clientele

Posted 13 weeks ago by jackvelvet

absolute WORST was when a guy put on Battles....

Posted 13 weeks ago by ink jenn

I like Luther Vandross or Vanessa Williams. My wife likes Elton John and Billy Joel. Diana Krall or even Sade could work. :)

Posted 13 weeks ago by onclejulien3

I LOVE SADE!

Posted 13 weeks ago by Pamela Spencer

This is just a joke but ... R. Kelly and Notorius BIG's "I'm ... You Tonight"

Posted 13 weeks ago by dmansmi

I must agree that slow soultry jazz is the best hormone producing music I can think of. Some really great vibes, slow smooth and tasteful and it goes great with a dim lighted room/candles! Awwww Yaaaaa!

Posted 13 weeks ago by Ali Kat

Blues Jazz Sade Barry 90's R. Kelly (Big) Luther Vandross

Posted 12 weeks ago by Rashard4