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I am a 28-year-old Kansas City transplant from Michigan. I am in no way a dating expert. In fact, I often have a love-hate relationship with dating. But when it comes to talking about dating, it's all love.

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2009 (114)
- July (2)
  - 3rd: What no one talks about - 7:55 am
  - 1st: Tired of waiting - 1:30 am
- June (14)
  - 29th: Wet and wild dating - 8:00 am
  - 25th: Weekend Date Idea: It's in the hole - 10:15 am
  - 22nd: What's the best bar to meet someone? - 3:05 pm
  - 21st: Blinding me with science - 7:25 pm
  - 19th: What about your friends - 12:25 am
  - 18th: Weekend date idea: Do you like to watch? - 2:35 am
  - 17th: Hottest and naughtiest bachelors - 6:00 pm
  - 15th: Why you should like dating - 11:25 pm
  - 11th: Staying positive on KC's dating scene - 12:25 pm
  - 9th: Weekend date idea: Eat something - 5:15 pm
  - 7th: DJ Jazzy Jeff and the P&L - 4:50 pm
  - 4th: You ain't no holla back girl - 2:20 am
  - 3rd: Weekend date ideas: Party, party, party - 8:20 am
  - 1st: What isn't on Craigslist? - 12:55 am
- May (18)
  - 29th: It's a shame - 9:10 am
  - 27th: Weekend date ideas: Get your culture fix - 8:35 am
  - 25th: Healing heart trumps a cheating heart - 12:55 pm
  - 22nd: The big payback - 8:05 am
  - 21st: Beer vs. wine - 8:50 am
  - 20th: Weekend Date Ideas: Fire and water - 11:40 pm
  - 18th: No strings attatched - 5:40 pm
  - 15th: "Just friends" - 8:00 am
  - 14th: Twitter dating - 8:50 am
  - 13th: Single in the Spotlight: Matt O'Barr - 8:50 am
  - 12th: Weekend date idea No. 1 - 8:15 am
  - 11th: Friend stealers - 9:15 am
  - 8th: There's no piece of tail worth this - 8:45 am
  - 7th: Tips for daters? - 8:45 am
  - 6th: If you need someone to talk to - 8:40 am
  - 5th: The science of dating - 8:05 am
  - 4th: We'll have to wait on that strip Twister - 9:20 am
  - 1st: Sexy advice - 9:05 am
- April (20)
  - 30th: Wanna play? - 8:50 am
  - 29th: Do opposites attract? - 8:20 am
  - 28th: Race and online dating - 8:40 am
  - 27th: Let's just cuddle - 7:55 am
  - 23rd: Things are about to heat up - 10:10 am
  - 22nd: You didn't plan this, did you? - 8:25 am
  - 21st: Video speed dating - 8:50 am
  - 20th: Fast love - 12:40 am
  - 18th: Feeling sexy - 1:50 am
  - 17th: 101 ways to get noticed - 7:25 am
  - 16th: KC's longest happy hours - 9:35 am
  - 15th: A text message for all - 8:50 am
  - 13th: Cheap and easy - 9:30 am
  - 13th: If you got down and dirty ... - 8:50 am
  - 10th: Tell me your worst breakup stories - 9:05 am
  - 9th: This is why dating stinks - 9:30 am
  - 8th: Stuck in a rut or bringing the ruckus? - 6:05 am
  - 6th: Is dating harder when you're smart? - 1:35 pm
  - 2nd: Calling all artists - 11:05 am
  - 1st: Cheap and easy - 8:35 am
- March (20)
  - 31st: Playing some D - 8:25 am
  - 30th: Dating by mobile phone - 9:00 am
  - 27th: Get served -- like Kansas is going to - 1:15 pm
  - 26th: Who's your favorite nerd? - 9:05 am
  - 25th: Love and comics - 10:40 am
  - 24th: Boy crazy - 9:00 am
  - 20th: Did you plan this? - 8:45 am
  - 19th: Go Down Together - 9:30 am
  - 18th: Sex is not a crime - 2:05 am
  - 16th: Girls, girls, girls - 2:00 am
  - 13th: Eharmony's gay dating site to launch - 7:55 am
  - 12th: Obama loves women, too - 2:40 am
  - 11th: Dating in KC is ... - 8:15 am
  - 10th: What matters to you? - 8:45 am
  - 8th: I love women - 8:20 am
  - 6th: Is first love overrated? - 9:20 am
  - 5th: Not-so-sexy movie and rope climbers - 7:55 am
  - 4th: Love times two and sex and you - 9:00 am
  - 3rd: Day of Caring - 9:45 am
  - 2nd: The recession and your love life - 2:10 am
- February (18)
  - 27th: Love sexy movies? - 11:15 am
  - 25th: Cheap eating dates - 6:10 am
  - 24th: Not giving it up - 9:00 am
  - 23rd: Finding love on facebook - 8:10 am
  - 18th: The appeal of jerks - 8:00 am
  - 18th: Bristol Palin on teen moms, her mom and sex - 2:05 am
  - 17th: Are you in a bad relationship? - 9:00 am
  - 16th: Getting busy on the Web - 7:00 am
  - 13th: Food, sex and the economy - 9:00 am
  - 12th: ... And still hating - 8:35 am
  - 11th: For all major haters -- something else to do Feb. 14 - 8:10 am
  - 10th: Love in the 'burbs - 7:55 am
  - 8th: Romantic eats - 8:05 am
  - 6th: SHE's just not that into you - 9:30 am
  - 5th: Heavy petting - 9:05 am
  - 4th: Did this book change your life? - 7:25 am
  - 3rd: Competing couples - 6:15 am
  - 2nd: You're a bad kisser and ... - 8:40 am
- January (22)
  - 29th: Don't underestimate the power of a good bra - 10:35 am
  - 28th: Love in this club - 8:40 am
  - 27th: Finding love in the '09 - 8:20 am
  - 26th: Off the hook lovin' - 8:30 am
  - 23rd: After the wedding - 8:50 am
  - 22nd: Get married minus the crazy - 8:35 am
  - 21st: Chasing your tail - 8:25 am
  - 20th: Older dating - 9:00 am
  - 19th: Valentine's Day: Love it or hate it? - 8:00 am
  - 16th: Be the rock - 8:45 am
  - 15th: Free dating, pricey girl - 8:40 am
  - 14th: Get tested - 9:20 am
  - 13th: Adult toy story - 9:00 am
  - 12th: The sexes and the bars - 9:05 am
  - 9th: Guest Blog: How far do I have to go to find love? - 8:40 am
  - 8th: Solo vacations - 9:45 am
  - 8th: Porn industry stimulus package - 8:10 am
  - 7th: Dipping your pen - 8:45 am
  - 6th: More dating resolutions - 8:00 am
  - 5th: Her mission for 2009: Get married - 9:05 am
  - 2nd: Any room for me in those genes? - 9:15 am
  - 1st: Older man, younger woman - 9:30 am
2008 (202)
- December (24)
  - 31st: Tips for tonight - 9:40 am
  - 30th: Get dirty Thursday - 9:15 am
  - 29th: You can tell from how he eats ... - 9:50 am
  - 26th: Little blue pills - 9:00 am
  - 25th: Ways to avoid Christmas - 8:00 am
  - 24th: Start the year off with a bang - 9:15 am
  - 23rd: Dating isn't dead - 9:05 am
  - 22nd: Requirements: Smart, funny, has 401(k) - 9:45 am
  - 19th: Singles in the spotlight - 10:00 am
  - 19th: It's all you, baby - 9:50 am
  - 18th: Really, being single is way cooler - 9:30 am
  - 17th: Green with envy this Christmas? - 9:45 am
  - 16th: Have sex or surf the net? - 9:10 am
  - 15th: It's like "Survivor" for relationships - 9:50 am
  - 12th: What do the lonely do at Christmas? - 8:10 am
  - 11th: The dangers of kissing. No, really - 9:50 am
  - 10th: She used to be my homeboy's lady - 10:10 am
  - 9th: Shop Fair Trade, help the YWCA - 9:10 am
  - 8th: The couple that swings together - 9:35 am
  - 5th: Single in the city? - 9:35 am
  - 4th: Hey, master daters - 1:40 am
  - 3rd: How to be a player - 9:30 am
  - 2nd: I can dream about you - 9:05 am
  - 1st: Pick me up, put me down - 9:55 am
- November (19)
  - 28th: Guest blog: Mr. Right Now is holding me hostage - 9:15 am
  - 27th: Can I get over this? - 9:00 am
  - 26th: Welcome to hell. Population: You - 8:05 am
  - 25th: Holiday headaches - 7:20 am
  - 24th: The dating crutch - 9:25 am
  - 21st: Want women want - 9:25 am
  - 20th: Let it go, already - 9:40 am
  - 19th: Where do I meet people? - 9:45 am
  - 18th: Hold the puke - 9:15 am
  - 15th: Married cheating is not new - 11:20 pm
  - 14th: A lady in the street ... - 9:50 am
  - 13th: Let's talk about sex ... among other things - 7:20 am
  - 12th: Angel in a centerfold - 9:00 am
  - 10th: And now ... FaceMyDrama - 9:15 am
  - 7th: Get a clue, get a date - 9:35 am
  - 6th: Close the deal already - 9:45 am
  - 5th: First date don'ts - 11:40 am
  - 4th: You voted Libertarian? This will never work - 9:40 am
  - 3rd: Big date, little money - 9:35 am
- October (23)
  - 31st: Put a ring on it - 9:25 am
  - 31st: Dating the undead - 1:40 am
  - 30th: The things you learn on TV - 9:45 am
  - 29th: A sordid past - 9:05 am
  - 28th: College kids and the deed - 11:05 am
  - 27th: Thinking about online dating? - 9:45 am
  - 24th: No sex = $10,000 wedding - 9:35 am
  - 23rd: I don't know about you ... - 9:40 am
  - 22nd: My adventures in dating - 9:40 am
  - 21st: Guys, do you know what girls want? - 10:05 am
  - 20th: You did what on a first date? - 9:00 am
  - 17th: Out of my league - 9:20 am
  - 16th: Nap or nookie? - 9:25 am
  - 15th: Guest Blog: Are you high? - 9:10 am
  - 14th: OK, this is the last time I talk sex - 10:20 am
  - 13th: Love and lambchops - 10:45 am
  - 10th: Can I get a table dance? - 9:10 am
  - 9th: Guest blog: To co-habitate or no? - 9:35 am
  - 7th: Suddenly single? - 9:35 am
  - 6th: Soccer, lovers and girls in bikinis - 9:45 am
  - 3rd: Dating and texting - 10:30 am
  - 2nd: Don't go on a date if ... - 11:30 am
  - 1st: Wedding belles - 9:25 am
- September (22)
  - 30th: Guest blog: Name this sex act - 9:45 am
  - 29th: The God of the hook-ups - 9:55 am
  - 24th: Like Pam and Tommy Lee's sex tape ... - 9:55 am
  - 23rd: Umm ... you suck in the sack - 8:00 am
  - 22nd: How not to be psycho - 11:15 am
  - 19th: Talk is cheap - 12:05 am
  - 18th: Do you need flirting lessons? - 10:40 am
  - 17th: Words from the wise - 9:35 am
  - 16th: Playing into male fantasies - 2:20 pm
  - 15th: Betrayals - 10:35 am
  - 15th: What's the worst way you've been blown off - 10:00 am
  - 12th: Did Ink get you laid? - 10:50 am
  - 11th: Guys, would you get snipped? - 9:20 am
  - 10th: Speaking of self pleasure - 9:10 am
  - 10th: Marrying the wrong man - 9:00 am
  - 9th: Sex on the first date - 8:05 am
  - 8th: The weekend fling - 10:30 am
  - 5th: Bringing home the bacon - 11:20 am
  - 4th: More from the "that's not hot" files - 9:50 am
  - 3rd: My services are free - 3:05 pm
  - 2nd: Moms and sex - 9:05 am
  - 1st: Bad in bed - 9:40 am
- August (22)
  - 29th: Sex addiction? I'm not buying it - 11:15 am
  - 28th: Flair for your package? - 3:40 pm
  - 27th: Church hookups - 10:10 am
  - 26th: Why was I dissed? - 9:40 am
  - 25th: What is cheating? - 9:30 am
  - 22nd: Spray-on condoms? Really? - 9:00 am
  - 21st: The condom song - 9:15 am
  - 20th: Did we have sex last night? - 9:10 am
  - 19th: Like a virgin - 10:10 am
  - 18th: Spider-Man has his curse, I have mine - 9:20 am
  - 15th: Guest blog: Labor of long-distance love - 10:00 am
  - 14th: No need to knock the cobwebs off ... - 10:30 am
  - 13th: Dating tips, as promised - 11:05 am
  - 12th: This site is killing the game - 9:00 am
  - 11th: Guest blog: Newly Defined Soul Mates - 9:55 am
  - 8th: Rude breakup behavior - 10:05 am
  - 7th: The sexiest movie you've ever seen - 10:55 am
  - 6th: Hot for teacher - 11:25 am
  - 5th: Speaking of sex - 4:20 pm
  - 4th: Y'all are weak - 4:45 pm
  - 2nd: Guest Blog: On loving her best friend - 9:20 am
  - 1st: Guest blog: The online dating adventure continues - 12:05 pm
- July (24)
  - 31st: Secret lovers - 10:40 am
  - 30th: Doing it big in relationships - 9:05 am
  - 29th: Breakup rituals - 9:25 am
  - 28th: Try these condoms on for size - 11:15 am
  - 26th: Being "The Bachelor" - 2:35 pm
  - 25th: Guest blog: An online dating adventure begins - 9:35 am
  - 24th: Want to be wanted? Make yourself scarce - 9:15 am
  - 23rd: When bad timing happens to good people - 7:10 am
  - 22nd: I won't do THAT - 9:00 am
  - 21st: Seniors take to online dating - 9:15 am
  - 18th: Bad kissers and how to stop them - 6:45 am
  - 17th: Guest blog: Focused on the wrong girl - 8:10 am
  - 16th: Women arrested in oral competition - 11:00 am
  - 15th: How far would you drive for love? - 7:40 am
  - 14th: Backups for the bedroom - 6:40 am
  - 11th: Your timing sucks - 6:50 am
  - 10th: Guest Blog: Man eBay - 6:00 am
  - 9th: Confessions of a serial monogamist - 10:20 am
  - 8th: Guest blog: Tell The Truth ... - 1:10 am
  - 7th: Do you online stalk? - 7:30 am
  - 4th: Make some fireworks - 2:35 am
  - 3rd: Shut up and kiss me - 1:35 am
  - 2nd: Once it hits your lips, it's so good - 3:40 am
  - 1st: Be loud ladies, monkey men like it. - 5:15 am
- June (16)
  - 30th: A pimp or a loser? - 12:40 pm
  - 30th: Four girls, a keg and a big idea - 7:50 am
  - 27th: Guest blog: Oneitus - 8:00 am
  - 26th: Guest blog: Whatever happened to dating? - 8:00 am
  - 25th: "in case we had sex I didnt want to remember" - 9:35 am
  - 25th: Young people doin' the nasty - 8:00 am
  - 23rd: Old people doin' the nasty - 9:00 am
  - 13th: Taking three men at a time - 1:05 pm
  - 12th: I regulate every shade of that ... - 2:25 pm
  - 12th: SiKC - 11:40 am
  - 12th: Coming up for air - 10:00 am
  - 11th: Is it art or is it porn? - 12:30 pm
  - 11th: "What makes a date movie?" - 6:25 am
  - 9th: Sex: how much is enough? - 4:30 pm
  - 5th: "Looking for girls in all the wrong places" - 3:05 pm
  - 4th: More places to find dates - 9:20 pm
- May (5)
  - 22nd: Steamy summer spots - 1:50 pm
  - 19th: "My ex-girlfriend loved Celine Dion" - 12:05 pm
  - 19th: Buying condoms and the walk of shame - 7:30 am
  - 14th: Personal massager? - 12:20 pm
  - 11th: Date at your own risk - 6:30 pm
- April (46)
  - 29th: Are you a woman under 26? - 11:30 am
  - 28th: Cheater, cheater pumkin eater - 11:55 am
  - 25th: Mood music - 10:10 am
  - 25th: Candles. Cheesedick or romantic? - 9:35 am
  - 24th: What boys are teaching me - 3:00 pm
  - 22nd: The best policy - 2:10 am
  - 21st: Don't sweat the haters - 10:15 pm
  - 21st: Breakup sex, the saga continues - 12:15 pm
  - 18th: Under the skin - 11:45 pm
  - 18th: Dating hasn't changed much - 11:35 pm
  - 18th: That's f'ing rude - 10:00 pm
  - 18th: "We-jaculation" - 9:55 pm
  - 18th: Jerk Island - 3:35 pm
  - 18th: When did you get married? - 12:55 pm
  - 18th: That ain't sexy - 11:20 am
  - 18th: Single girl army - 9:10 am
  - 18th: Getting the digits - 12:15 am
  - 17th: Magic number - 10:30 pm
  - 17th: Mr. "I just wanna get married" - 9:20 pm
  - 17th: Yes, he'd hit that - 9:15 pm
  - 17th: You can quote me - 7:35 pm
  - 17th: You slept with that? - 6:30 pm
  - 17th: Woman power - 2:10 pm
  - 17th: Look at that body - 12:25 pm
  - 17th: Duped by a dork - 10:00 am
  - 17th: It's always something - 12:15 am
  - 16th: Talk sexy to me - 10:55 pm
  - 16th: What's in your boxers? - 9:55 pm
  - 16th: This one's for you, married people - 9:35 pm
  - 16th: Personality types - 8:25 pm
  - 16th: Dating technology - 6:20 pm
  - 16th: First dates - 12:05 pm
  - 15th: Going it alone - 9:25 pm
  - 15th: Sex and the single mom - 4:05 pm
  - 15th: Boyfriend material vs. bedroom material - 2:30 am
  - 14th: Was your prom this dramatic? - 8:35 pm
  - 14th: Living single - 8:30 pm
  - 14th: Well, we still have "hot hate sex" - 6:05 pm
  - 14th: just to clarify - 5:35 pm
  - 14th: Stop with the Va-jay-jay - 1:15 am
  - 13th: You've thought about it ... - 2:10 am
  - 12th: Quit hating on online dating - 5:40 pm
  - 12th: Breakup sex: The beginning - 2:35 am
  - 11th: SINGLES OUT -- a story from 2005 - 2:10 am
  - 3rd: 'Good sex lasts 3 to 13 minutes' - 9:25 am
  - 1st: This week's tip: Leave the panties on - 11:40 am
- March (1)
  - 31st: Last chance for FREE stuff! - 5:25 pm

Bad kissers and how to stop them

I already talked about how to know if somebody wants to kiss you. (If you missed that, shame on you. Click here.) Now here's a story on how NOT to kiss. If you are grown and you need this advice though, well, I dont know what to say. One I think she left out was the vacuum kisser.

There are people -- and this has happened to people I know -- who put their whole mouth over yours when kissing. Yuck. A guy did this to me in high school. If someone is kissing you wrong, stop them and say "This is how I like to be kissed" and give them a demo. If they don't follow your advice, dump them. There's nothing worse than a bad kisser who doesn't take direction.

(4) Comments

Posted on: Jul 18 2008 - 06:45:00 AM

Tags: DATING KISS

4 Comments - leave comment

Kissing just between her lips and mine is short lived with me...I prefer to "travel." Shoulders, neck, chest, toes, thighs...etc ;) Oh, and the smacking noises can be overdone. IMHO

Posted 349 days ago by paulie

The use of tongues is essential for those who have kissed each other more than once - just don't turn it into a tongue-a-lick-tonomy (unless the tongue-work is 'down there').

Posted 349 days ago by SCI-KO

kissing and anything else can be tricky at first. I think Communication is the key, I don't like that thing you do, or I would like it better if you did it like this. Dont just kiss the person, kiss with the person.

Posted 347 days ago by bunches

I think it is so easy during sex to be like "hey, you..do this...that one thing you do sucks"
but I can't do it with kissing, i feel like it would hurt their feelings more? Maybe because I find kissing more intimate.
I don't know, maybe because your mouth is on your face..and its like, "hey, that thing you do with your face sucks"...that sound harsh? lol
but "hey, that thing you do with your peener...that sucks" is easier to say lol

Posted 347 days ago by wickkedchickk