Or, maybe people are talking about it now.

"Fifty-three percent of women and nearly half of all men report having used a vibrator, according to two new national surveys from Indiana University recently published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine," says a story from The New York Times.

Check it out.

Dear Kiss & Tell: How long do you wait before you call it quits .... ie. living together for many years, no marriage? (Wish I knew the answer when I was in my 20s).

Dear no marriage: If marriage is important to you, and you're in a serious long-term relationship, you need to make it known to your partner. I'm not saying set an ultimatum or create a timeline. Those are bad ideas. But you could say "You know, I love you and I'd like for us to get married one day, is that something you would want?" Gauge their reaction. If they say, "No, I don't want to ever get married," don't wait around for a change of heart. If they say yes and you two start talking about it, great. If he or she wants to marry you, but isn't ready, that's OK too. It's not a race. (I know how there's pressure though, especially in your 20s when everyone arounds you starts getting married. I've been there.)

The timing is different for everyone. It depends on where you are in your life as well. Maybe it's a long-distance relationship and it's not possible for you to get married yet. Maybe you and your  significant other live together, but you'd like to be financially stable with debts paid off before you make it legal. I have girlfriends in both situations. They want to marry their men, they've been with them years, the time just isn't right. And that's fine. For them.

Last week we talked about the best bars to meet people. Well ... I haven't heard back from any of you yet, but this weekend, I think I found one.

I was at the Oceans of Fun adult pool, Castaway Cove, and I found Jim Bob's Belly Up Bar to be a fertile mating ground. It bet The Jones, downtown's new pool, is the same way. How can booze and scantily clad people NOT lead to flirting?

It makes sense. Here are some ways to get the conversation going:

"Hey everybody, we're all gonna get laid."

Well, maybe not quite. That's a line from a little movie called "Caddyshack." which lots of people -- guys especially -- love. It's playing for free Friday at the City Market Park downtown, Third and Main streets.

So maybe everybody won't exactly get laid, but this date idea is an opportunity to dress up, impress someone with your sense of humor, lay down (in the grass) and laugh.

A reader asked me the other day: What are the best bars in KC to meet people? I never had much luck picking up guys in bars, so I want your vote.

Kelly's Westport Inn used to be the place I'd go after work and you could always find guys looking to score there. Girls too. I've seen plenty of strangers go home together after some drinks there. But I don't just mean meet up as in hook up. (You can tell me your opinion on what places are good for that too though.) What do you think is the best bar to actually meet someone you'd want to date?

When I was younger and more of a barfly than I am now, we didn't venture much past Westport very often and this was before a lot of bars I go to now were even open.

I'm not sure what this world is coming to. I'm all for online dating. I'm an advertisement for it. But now people can use "genetics to predict whether two people will have butterflies-in-the-stomach chemistry."

What? A company does this. And not the one I wrote about before, ANOTHER company. Can you believe that?

I say it takes all the fun out of dating. If you're in a relationship, think about it. You might not even be with the one of you love if you had to rely to science. You could be with someone completely different.